Waking up after surgery, I felt like my whole world had shifted. The physical changes were one thing, but the emotional impact hit even harder. I didn’t recognise my body, and honestly, I didn’t know how to feel about it. Would I ever feel like myself again? Would people look at me differently? The fear of leaks or unexpected noises from my stoma made me hesitant to fully live my life.
In those early months, I struggled. But little by little, things started to change. Connecting with others in the stoma community was a turning point for me. Hearing their stories, their ups and downs, and realising that I wasn’t alone gave me so much comfort. Therapy helped too – it gave me the space to work through my emotions and start seeing my stoma in a different light. Instead of viewing it as a loss, I started to see it as what had given me a second chance.
Practically speaking, it was a lot of trial and error. Finding the right products, figuring out a routine, and learning how to manage everything in my day-to-day life gave me a sense of control again. Slowly, I started to feel more confident – whether it was handling my stoma at work, going out with friends, or just enjoying the little things without constant worry.
This journey hasn’t just been about struggles; it’s been about growth. I’ve learned to be kinder to myself, to celebrate the small wins, and to let go of the pressure to be perfect. Living with a stoma has made me more patient, more empathetic, and more grateful for the simple joys in life.
It’s not always easy, but I’ve realised that challenges don’t have to define us – they can shape us in ways we never expected. And with time, support, and a little self-compassion, life can feel full and joyful again.
So here’s to taking it one step, one day, one moment at a time.
Thanks for reading,
