Getting physical in your relationship post-stoma surgery? Let’s talk about it.

First off, it’s totally normal not to feel in the mood right after surgery. And yes, there are a few extra considerations to ponder before getting intimate. But hey, sex matters—no denying that. Whether you’re married, in a long-term relationship, or diving back into the dating scene with your stoma, here are some pointers to spice up your sex life:


Talk it out

Communication is key. Chatting with your partner builds trust and makes everyone feel more at ease. So spill the beans on how you’re feeling—it’ll ease the pressure and help you both feel more comfortable.

Take your time

Healing takes time, so don’t rush back into the bedroom (or wherever you prefer to get busy). But remember, there are plenty of other ways to get intimate post-stoma surgery—think touching, kissing, and sharing a cosy bed.

Get creative

Experiment with different positions to find what works best for you both. The side-by-side position is a favourite among ostomates, letting your stoma bag hang freely to the side for uninterrupted intimacy.

Prep to feel your best

Empty or change your stoma bag beforehand. You might even opt for a smaller, more discreet bag for those intimate moments. And if you’re still building confidence, specialised underwear can work wonders to help you feel more comfortable as you ease back into sex with a stoma.

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